We are carrying enormous loads at home and in the workplace. The coronavirus isn’t making it any easier. Life takes a toll on every single one of us. Stressed, tired, and rushed has become the description of life in our country. So many of us are totally exhausted, have too much to do, and have too little time.

Here’s what I want you to take away from this article today: you are body, mind, and spirit. Your family, your life, your work, it will all come to a grinding halt unless you discover your key to sustainable renewable energy. You need to restore, release, and recharge.

First, you must rethink the concept of balance between your personal/home schedules and your professional life. Most people tend to assume that being out of balance is the cause of energy issues because conventional wisdom says home time is restorative and work time is draining. In reality things aren’t so black and white. And we know that truth more perfectly now as most of us have been home for months!

The wrong kind of home time can be crippling. Think of endless diapers, screaming teenagers, empty refrigerators, piles of laundry, or a needy spouse. You experience a teeter-totter of energy ups and downs in every part of your life whether at home or work.

So how do you find your restore, release, and recharge?

First, let go of the mindset that you can reach a constant state of total control. Only God can initiate perfect balance. Give Him your schedule and commit your home time and your work time to Him. He can expand and balance what you will never be able to stabilize. He alone can restore you.

Next, replace your vision with a new plan of managing your energy flow inside the framework of what is important to you—at the time. By reframing the challenge this way, you are replacing an unsolvable problem (sustaining a work/life equilibrium state) with a big payoff: never running your energy batteries on empty. Release your iron grasp on the details and focus on doing what brings you joy.

Next, take time to recharge. Read scripture, worship God, listen to music, take a walk or a bubble bath, do something to recharge your body, mind, and spirit. I take a walk every day. I do it to stay healthy, to see something other than the walls of my house, and to recharge myself.

What are you going to do to restore, release, and recharge?

At the beginning of the year we focused on our vision and goals for the year. Little did we know what the year had in store for us! I’ll be honest and say some of my goals have suffered because of this pandemic. Others have moved full ahead. How about you? Have you done a review of your goals and your progress?

Goals are not a set-it and forget-it thing. They have to be managed and periodically reviewed. We have to tend to our goals if we want to make progress.

It doesn’t work to set goals and then not look at them again until the end of the year. Goals, just like our relationships and faith, are organic, evolving, and ever-growing. If we ignore our goals, they become meaningless words or dreams that never come true.

So what now? What do you do to get your goals back on track?

First you need a plan. Map out action steps to help you reach your goals. Whatever planning system you use, be sure to map out how you are going to reach that goal.

Second, set aside time in your schedule to review your goals and progress on a regular basis. Some goals may change or need to go away entirely due to life changes. Some become more important and should be moved to the top of your to-do list. Focus on the big picture and what you are trying to achieve and it will help you keep sight of what matters.

Finally, track your progress. Keep track in a way that allows you to visually see that you are moving toward an end result and getting closer to achieving your goal. Visualization is such a powerful tool!

So let’s take a few minutes to do a goal check-in right now. And remember, Don’t let an irrelevant or outdated goal prevent you from making progress. Don’t abandon your goals altogether because things have changed and the goal no longer makes sense.

What do you do instead? Purge!

Just like you would purge your closet of clothes that no longer fit, if a goal no longer makes sense update it or delete it! If you get rid of one goal, replace it with a new goal that will keep you moving toward your best life. You’ve got this!

Need a God boost? Say these affirmation scriptures each day. Just add your name where the blank is!

Be careful how you think ( _________ ); your life is shaped by your thoughts. (Prov. 4:23, GNT)

My thoughts will be clear; I ( _________ ) will speak words of wisdom. (Ps. 49:3, GNT)

I ( _________ ) can do all things through him who strengthens me. (Phil. 4:13, ESV)

( _________ ) Don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything. With thankful hearts offer up your prayers and requests to God. Then, because you ( _________ ) belong to Christ Jesus, God will bless you with peace that no one can completely understand. And this peace will control the way you think and feel. (Phil. 4:6–7, CEV)

Are you living your purpose in life?

Our desire to find our place or purpose in this life has led to a multi-million-dollar marketplace. We can buy books, fill out online surveys and tests to discover our talents, find our “true personality” through quizzes in magazines, take classes on goal setting and defining mission, attend seminars, or work with a life coach. Those items may help us learn more about ourselves, but they don’t help us Live with Purpose.

Purpose is from God and living that purpose leads to FREEDOM. He created each of us to live out our part in fulfilling His mission on earth, to bring humanity back into relationship with Him. That is the purpose we need to see and live out, and that purpose can’t be found in a personality quiz.

So why has God put each of us on this earth? How are we to understand the meaning of our existence? These are questions I’ve heard asked over and over by people all around me. In fact, I regularly have young women come in my office seeking guidance about Living their Purpose.

Want to know a secret?

We work too hard at it. The answer is so simple, in fact, that most people never find it, even though Jesus has already given us the answer!

Jesus wanted His disciples to understand their purpose. He wanted them to have no doubts about what He required of them. In John 15:4 He told them to, “Remain in Me.” Some versions of the Bible translate it as “Abide in Me.” This may be one of the most profound and beautiful commands in Scripture. In one phrase, He takes away all of the noise and complexity of life. Our purpose is to exist in HIM. When we do that, everything else falls in place.

Our meaning in life should come from Jesus. Period. Our confidence is found in Him. Our purpose and direction comes from Him. He is our source, our strength, our wisdom, and our satisfaction. When we Remain in Him, we are allowing him to guide our every decision, we are giving in to His will for our lives instead of trying to define and impose our own will. Why does that matter you ask? We can’t live out God’s purpose for our lives if we are living our OWN purpose!

What we need to understand is that it’s not about reaching a particular goal, or a desired end. What we often see as a process of growth and movement is what Jesus sees as our goal! His purpose is the process. The process, living our lives as a testament to Him, not the outcome, is what truly glorifies God.

So back to my original question. Are you living your purpose in life? Are you Abiding in Jesus? Are you living every moment of every day for Him? That’s how to find FREEDOM, my friend!

Life has changed suddenly for all of the mothers I know. They went from kids in school or going on playdates to being with them, in their house, 24/7. These amazing women are trying to work from home and care for their babies. They are making meals, doing laundry, keeping kids entertained, and still leading their teams at work and managing the household.

Mothering is Hard

At six months old, our son Graham was stricken with spinal meningitis. I had rushed him to the hospital at the urging of my mother, who refused to believe he only had the ear infection his pediatrician had diagnosed. When I arrived, I took him out of the car, car seat and all, and rushed into the emergency room. The nurse took one look at Graham and yelled, “Code Blue” my heart stopped. I was a mother, and my baby was fighting for his life.

I stood watching as they fought to save his life. They cut off his yellow furry pajamas, sliced open his wrists and ankles to insert intravenous lines, and began CPR with chest compressions on Graham’s tiny chest.

Those first hours of waiting there to see if our son would live or die were some of the most difficult of my life, and they are moments no mother ever wants to live through.

Rich and I slept at the hospital, while our two bigger boys were home with my parents.  ICU, surgery, more hospitalization, but finally we brought him home.  He was a sickly baby with a very negative future. That was my beginning as a mother of a very special little boy.

I would love to tell you Graham was miraculously healed, but that is not our story. God had a different journey for Graham and our entire family. He struggled and struggled. He was very delayed in his development in every way. Therapy, medication, doctors, became a way of life for us.  We all did the best we could to cope. Our marriage was extremely tested. My faith in God went through the wringer.

This single event in Graham’s life became the defining turning point of my role as a woman and as a mother. Denial, begging, and rage became my constant conversation with God.

Why me?

Why did I have to be a mom to a ‘special need” child?

What had I done to deserve this prison of broken dreams?

How would I ever rise above my circumstances to fulfill the mission God had placed in my heart?

A Call From God

And then I understood. Motherhood is a call from God. Caring for this child and loving him with all of my heart as God loved both of us was what I needed to do at that moment.

The importance of a mother’s love cannot be underestimated! Motherhood was designed by God. He created the relationship between a mother and child to help shape that child to carry His love to the world.

Mothers, both those who give birth and those who choose to love children who need a mother, share their faith and love with their “children” and through them, they help shape the world. This is a lesson we see over and over in Scripture. The most obvious biblical example of a mother’s love and sacrifice is seen in Mary, the mother of Jesus.

Many of us have women who come into our lives and “mother” us. Paul speaks of Rufus’ mother, a woman who “has been a mother to me as well” (Romans 16:13). She made the choice to “mother,” to love another. Her influence helped shape his life.

We Aren’t Called to be Perfect

None of these women were perfect, just as none of us are perfect, but they all shared their faith and love with those they considered their children. The important thing is to, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8).

My mother modeled this kind of love for me. She has always been a living example of what a mother truly does. She has been by my side for all of those special moments in a woman’s life, those moments when fear and happiness are fighting for the upper hand. My first date, my wedding day, the birth of each of my children.

She was the one who urged me to take Graham to the emergency room, even though I had just returned from the doctor’s office. Without her counsel, he might not be here today! She spent hours praying for him and encouraging our family.

She has shared her faith with me, giving me the strength to do God’s work, even when I didn’t want to! Being a mom is hard work, and it is a job that never stops!

True happiness comes in caring for others more than ourselves.

Today our Graham is a walking miracle. He walks, talks, graduated from school, and he works for the Lord against all odds! My role as his mother, and as a mother to all of our sons, has been so incredibly fulfilling.

We would like to wish all the mothers reading this article a Happy Mother’s Day!




We are in the midst of an unprecedented pandemic, friend. The threat of COVID-19 has led to a temporary, new way of life for almost all of us. I’m writing from my home office instead of my church office. I haven’t seen my church family, whom I love dearly, in weeks, and I miss them. But I’m still working hard to serve each of them!

How about you? How has your life changed? What are you missing right now? Are you feeling uncertain and off-kilter because your plans aren’t coming together as they should?

I’ve been there. In fact, I’m there probably once a day! Each time I had a plan. I knew what I wanted to happen; afterward, I even knew where my plan had gone wrong. Let me tell you, I wanted a “do-over” each time. I wanted all of my work and preparation to lead to the results I wanted. Instead, I was left with unmet expectations and a sense that I wasn’t in control.

Unmet expectations are difficult to deal with. They always cost us more than we expect: more effort, more work, more money, and more time. We lose sleep, our stress levels shoot up, and we have to face the fact that we aren’t in complete control of our lives. And right now, we are in very limited control of our lives.

My unmet expectations have had an unexpected benefit though. I learn from them. I grow as a person. The next time I face whatever threw my plan off course, I am ready to deal with it.

Each time I am left with new information and a new understanding or revelation about myself or others. Gradually, I learned that even when I am facing a painful or difficult situation, I could push through. I can persevere because God has a purpose for my life.

My problem in the past has been how to understand God’s PURPOSE in my pain. And I have to admit, I am still dealing with that to some extent. What I need to do, and what you should do as well, is find a PATHWAY to the  Promises we receive from Him.


I found that pathway in the story of THE CROSS!

Do you ever find yourself discouraged, depressed, defeated, or devastated? I want to encourage you today that there is a pathway for you as well. A path to hope, change, and transformation.

The story of the Cross takes place over 3 Days and 3 Nights. It is the story of the ultimate redemption, and while it starts with suffering and death, it ends with Hope and Transformation!

Day 1: Friday, was a day of suffering, pain, agony, and death. For that one day, God was silent. He refused to listen to the people who had sinned so severely and who were torturing and killing His beloved Son. All pleas and prayers, even those of Jesus himself, fell on deaf ears.

Day 2: Saturday, was full of doubt, confusion, misery, and mourning. Jesus was dead and buried. His followers were left alone. Humanity was separated from God’s presence.

Day 3: Sunday, was a day of HOPE, JOY, VICTORY, and TRANSFORMATION!


The Cross is the Friday story. It is a story of PAIN—every kind of pain. That Friday saw the death of dreams, heartbreak, unfair circumstances, and betrayal. For the people who loved Jesus that Friday was the embodiment of ‘unmet expectations.  They had never dreamt their beloved teacher would die a horrific humiliating death between condemned criminals! However, Jesus knew from the beginning of His ministry what that Friday would bring, and He walked forward into that unspeakable pain for all humanity anyway.

Why Did Jesus COME?

He came to restore our relationship with the Father. Jesus longed to have a relationship with each of us. He longs for you and me even now!

He also came to bring eternal life. John 3:16-17 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish, but have eternal life.  For God did not send His son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him.”

He came to ensure His followers would have abundant life on Earth. John 10:10 says, “… I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.” Have it to the full. The word full is defined as “over and above, more than enough, abundantly.” Jesus wants each of us to live a FULL and ABUNDANT life. He wants us to have more than enough. And He died on the cross on that Friday to make sure our FULL life was possible.

All three of these are accomplished because Jesus came to bring us salvation. According to Romans 10:9, “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

The Greek word sozo used in this verse translates as “to save, keep safe and sound, to rescue from danger or destruction.” It also translates as “deliver or protect” and “to make whole.” Jesus did not come just so we could be forgiven and become a Christian. His sozo (salvation) means receiving everything He intended for us to have. You were created to experience every good part of life on earth.

Jesus paid a price for us—spirit, soul, and body. He suffered in all three areas. He went to indescribable lengths to make us free. This is only a glimpse of what He did for us.

Jesus knew what was going to happen to him. He read the scriptures. He understood the suffering He would have to endure to save us, and He did it freely.

Isaiah 53:5, a verse Jesus would have been very familiar with, foretold His suffering, stating, “the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.”

That suffering came in the form of the Cross.

  • The heavy beam of the cross across His shoulders and the procession of the condemned Christ began its slow journey down the Via De Larosa.
  • The weight of the heavy wooden beam together with the shock produced by the blood loss was too much, and our Lord stumbled and fell.
  • As He fell, the rough wood of the beam punctured the lacerated skin and muscles of His shoulders.
  • When they arrived at Golgotha, the beam was placed on the ground, and Jesus was thrown backward, His shoulders against the wood.
  • The soldiers stretched His arms against the beams.
  • The Roman legionnaire then felt for the depression at the front of His wrist and drove a heavy, square, nail through the wrist and deep into the wood. He moved to the other side and repeated the action.

I can imagine my Lord, Jesus, turning His head toward the nail just as the soldier lifts the hammer to strike it. No doubt Jesus saw the mallet, the nail, and the soldier’s hand. I also believe that Jesus saw something else. Through the eyes of Scripture, we see what others present on Friday missed.

We know what Jesus saw: “Having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross” (Col. 2:14).

Between His hand and the wood was a list. A long list. A list of mistakes, lusts, lies, greedy moments, and prodigal years. A list of our sins. The list of my sins.  The list of your sins.

Dangling from that cross are our bad choices from last year. The bad attitudes from last week. In front, all eternity on that Friday, there in broad daylight, for all of heaven to see, is the list of our mistakes.

The list, however, cannot be read. The words cannot be deciphered. The mistakes are covered. The sins are hidden. His hand hides those at the top; His blood covers the rest of the list.



But what does it mean for us today, as we live in a time of uncertainty and promise?

Life is Not Futile. “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jer. 29:11).

Failures are Not Forever. “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more” (Heb. 8:12).

Death is Not Final. Paul wrote in Corinthians 15:51-54: “Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed—in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.”

Does your life feel futile or out of control? It doesn’t have to.

Do some of your failures seem like they will last forever? They won’t.

Does the grave appear to be the final stop? Death has been swallowed up in victory!

There is a truth more significant than all the losses and sorrows of life. And it can be discovered in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Through his death, your life has purpose and meaning. You are forgiven and loved by a Savior who died for you.

Here’s the FACT of LIFE, you will face these three days over and over in your lifetime.

  • You will face pain and death.
  • You will experience doubt and confusion.
  • And God will bring you Hope, Joy, and Transformation in the form of new beginnings.


It’s a cycle of the human condition. So the real questions are:

What do I do in my days of pain?

How do I get through my days of doubt and confusion?

How do I get to my days of joy and victory?


Suffering and pain have changed me for the better. Even this forced isolation from the people I love has changed me in ways I hadn’t anticipated. Every problem I have faced has been a push in a new direction—an opening to further understanding.

My answer and yours is THE CROSS—the story of the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus.

What’s so GOOD about Good Friday?  Because of that supernatural Friday, we have the daily power for abundant living now, with eternal life as a bonus!

WOW! Mind-blowing! Wonderful! Praise Jesus!

J.P. Morgan was one of the most powerful and respected bankers of his time. He financed railroads and helped organize U.S. Steel, General Electric, and other major industries that helped the United States become a world power in industry. Morgan was a man who knew about success!

One day a man walked up to him and held up an envelope. The man said, “Sir, in my hand I hold a guaranteed formula for success, which I will gladly sell to you for $25,000.” This was not chump change, even to a man as successful as Morgan. $25,000 in the early 1900s would be approximately $750,000 today.

I want you to put yourself in Morgan’s place for a minute. You have provided the funding for dozens of businesses, you’ve started your own bank, and life is looking pretty good. Do you take the time to talk to this man, or do you decide he’s delusional and wasting your time? I have to admit, if you walked up to me on a street today and offered me the contents of an envelope for that kind of money I would say, “Thanks but no thanks,” and walk away.

Morgan didn’t do that. He had learned that value can show up in unexpected ways. Be he was also smart enough not to just shell out $25,000, Morgan replied, “I do not know what is in the envelope. However, if you show me and I like it, I give you my word as a gentleman that I will pay you what you ask.”

I’m sure the man with the envelope was doing a little dance in his head at this point. One of the most powerful men in the country was willing to look at what he had in that envelope, information that he considered to be worth a small fortune. He quickly agreed and handed over the envelope. Morgan took out the contents, a single sheet of paper, read it, and immediately wrote a check.

That piece of paper said two things:

Every morning write a list of the things that need to be done that day.

Do them.


How simple is that? Yet I would be willing to bet most of us don’t. I know my to-do list is LONG. It’s so overwhelming at times that I would love to just hide and pretend that list doesn’t exist. But I don’t. I chose to engage and get that list done. Delivering results to achieve your goal and expand your success is the very core of engaging in your life.

Engagement, or engaging, is a process that should be transformational for you. In this process you move from being a person whom things happen to, to an individual who makes things happen. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to just deal with things as they come. I want to be the driving force. I want to make things happen. I want to create Forward Momentum in my life.

When you are engaged, you cope with challenges and work to achieve goals. By recognizing the importance of engaging, you foster connectivity and create a community that supports and encourages you. You can be the motivation in your life, you don’t have to just live what you’ve been handed!


If you want to truly engage, you need to understand yourself: your motivations, strengths, vulnerabilities, thought processes, behavior, personality, and how you are perceived by others. Achieving self-clarity is a deeply personal journey but taking time to know and understand yourself brings authenticity and genuineness to your behavior and actions.

Be yourself. Don’t worry about proving your specific attributes to others. If you take nothing else away from this blog post, remember this: God created you to be you! He made each person unique. So stop trying to be like everyone else and develop your own identity! They only way to do that is to achieve self-clarity and acquire a unique identity you can personally own.

Your first step is to focus on your strengths and vulnerabilities and recognize them as important elements of who you are. Don’t be afraid of conflict as you work to come to terms with your weaknesses. We all have personal issues, and it can be difficult to deal with them, but if you want to live your best life then dealing with your weaknesses is essential!

Evangelist D. L. Moody was once asked which people gave him the most trouble. His response was, “I’ve had more trouble with Dwight L. Moody than any other man alive.” As Jan Smuts states, “A man is not defeated by his opponents but by himself.”

The pathway to self-clarity and true engagement requires the development of your unique identity. This identity must be expressed through your ability to find your own voice. Finding your voice is an important component of living a life dedicated to Christ. And friend, I know that your authentic voice is powerful!

You must know who you are and what you stand for. It’s as simple as that. Self-knowledge creates self-confidence that is both formidable and engaging. So are you ready to seek self-clarity so you can experience true engagement in your life?

Here are some coaching questions you can ask yourself to help you on your journey:

  1. What is the purpose of what you do?
  2. What type of impact do you want your life to have?
  3. How do you contribute to others and the world?
  4. How are you going to contribute to the betterment of others?
  5. What percentage of the authentic you shows through in your life?
  6. If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you try right now?
  7. On a scale of 1 to 10, how motivated are you in your life? What motivates you?
  8. Describe a moment when you felt the most alive.
  9. What motivates you? How do you motivate yourself?
  10. What is the one thing that never fails to move you to action?

I want to leave you with an affirmation you can use as you seek self-clarity and incorporate engaging into your life. Just insert your name in the blank!

Christ gives me _________ the strength to face anything! (Phil. 4:13, CEV)

As we celebrated Father’s Day this past weekend, I thought a lot about my father and the lessons I learned from him as I was growing. My dad was a warm, affirming father. He supported my call to ministry, and I feel incredibly blessed to have learned my leadership basics by watching how he lived his life.

He gave his all to his God, his family, and his ministry. He loved his work so much that he worked full time as pastor until his eightieth birthday! In his retirement, as pastor emeritus, he continued to go to work every day to serve the church he loved so much. His personal mission to build that church continued to give him boundless energy and enthusiasm until he went to heaven at age eighty-six.

All of us have role models and mentors we learn from. Some are formal relationships, some are friendships, some of us are blessed to grow alongside amazing, God-ordained leaders. Dad was a great leader, and I want to share with you a few of the lessons I learned by watching him. Lessons I still live by today.

Never limit God’s influence in your life and ministry.

We do this. We do this all the time. We get a picture in our head of how things are supposed to be, and that is what we work toward. What you and I need to understand is that when we live only according to our vision we limit God’s influence in our life.

God’s plans for us have no limits. He sees potential where we see only walls. When we let God have his way, we end up in places we never could have dreamed because they are outside of our realm of experience. When we moved to Florida, we had a specific image of what our ministry would look like. And we struggled. We cried, we begged God to help us, we despaired of every making any headway. Then we had an epiphany. Where we saw insurmountable problems God saw unlimited potential.

As soon as we stopped doing things our way, and started doing things God’s way, the blessings started pouring in. Our ministry started growing and kept growing. Twenty years ago we never could have envisioned where we are now. That is what happens when you get out of God’s way and let Him influence your life.

Expect and embrace change.

I get it, change is scary. Most of us like to find our comfortable routine and stick with it. But when you are following the path God lays out, it seldom travels in a straight line. My dad dealt with change like he dealt with every other obstacle in life. He prayed, asked for guidance, and then accepted God’s will.

You see, Dad knew that change happens. Change is what keeps us on our toes. It keeps us fresh and flexible. If we acknowledge that change is going to happen, and then ask for God’s guidance when we face change, it takes the uncertainty and discomfort out of the situation. Then we are able to accept change for what it is, a continuation of God’s blessings in our life!

Plan for the future, don’t just live for today.

While we don’t want to limit God’s influence in our lives, and we have to be ready for unanticipated changes, that doesn’t mean we just sit and wait for life to happen. We need to prayerfully plan for the future. I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” I have found that to be so incredibly true through the years.

I can remember Dad planning for the future. He always had a long-term plan. He prayed for guidance, and he listened to others who had a stake. He planned carefully, but he was never set in stone. He built adaptability into his plans. This is what we all must do. Make your plans. Set you goals. But always remember to ask for God’s influence to guide every step, and always be ready for change!

Build a community.

I’ve said it before, and I think this lesson bears repeating. We are not made to travel this journey alone. You need to surround yourself with people who will support you, who love you, who want the best for you, and who love God as fiercely as you do.

Dad dearly loved people. He respected and honored them because he knew that each is a child of God, wonderfully made and wonderfully loved. His heart for people brought others into community with him. When their church burnt after they had just finished expanding, that community came together to salvage what they could even as the fire was still being put out. They gathered together and created something even greater. All because of community.

Don’t underestimate the importance of others walking beside you in your life. I don’t doubt that you are capable of doing things alone, but you don’t have to do it that way. I want to challenge you to build a community and then soak in the joy that comes from knowing those people are ready to step in and help, or hold you, or cheer you up on a rough day. Relationships are God’s greatest gift to us. And I am so thankful that I learned that lesson early on by watching my Dad.

Never, ever, ever give up!

My father’s last words before he passed were, “Never, ever, ever give up!” That was his last advice to his children, and I will always take those words to heart. I want to pass those words on to you today. God made you. God placed you where you are for a purpose. You will face hardships. You will deal with scary, unpredictable changes that you haven’t planned for. But never give up!

My father enriched my life in so many ways. I will always cherish the love and support, the guidance, the correction, and the advice he gave me. Even more though, I will hold close the lessons I learned by watching him embrace the life God gave him. I hope these lessons will enrich your life as they have mine!

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I can’t think of a single time in history when someone accomplished something great by themselves. That’s because no one operates in a vacuum.

Our support systems and those we partner with contribute to our success. They help us build the foundation we need to succeed!


We all hit rough patches. Have you ever experienced one of these situations?

  • The company downsized and your job was one of those they cut.
  • The loss of a loved one sent you in an emotional tailspin.
  • You made a mistake that led to the failure of whatever project you were working on.
  • Your business venture failed, even though you made sure you had all of the details worked out.

Any of these situations, and many more, can leave us feeling out of control, like failure and loss are taking over our lives. So what do you do? Let me tell you what I think. Those DOWN TIMES are actually our PREP TIMES.

All of the disciples suffered setbacks in their lives and ministries. When they met with failure or hardship, the first thing every single one of them did was pray.

This was a lesson Jesus taught by example over and over again. Prayer is vital to our success and to our relationships.

We never face difficulties alone. Not only do we have people surrounding us who can help lift us up when we are down, but our heavenly father is with us every day. He WANTS to help us succeed. All we have to do is listen for His voice.

You see, the men that Jesus chose to pass on His message to the world knew success wouldn’t come from moving forward blindly. They needed to PREP, to prepare for what they were going to do next. And that preparation always started with prayer.


Our PREP TIME often follows a failure of some kind. Peter’s failure on the night of Jesus’ trial was one of the most horrible experiences of his life. In his Lord’s darkest hour, Peter, who Jesus loved dearly, denied even knowing Him. That sin, that failure, rocked the foundation of Peter’s faith.

This wasn’t an unexpected failure. Jesus told him he would fail. Peter, however, did not believe he would ever stumble in his faith in Jesus. He had seen Jesus’ miracles firsthand, and he KNEW Jesus was the Messiah. His shame over that failure could have meant the end of his ministry.

Our shame over past failures can haunt us, but Jesus wants to redeem us completely. He knows our future failures as sure as He knew Peter’s. When we fail, and we will, we must remember that Jesus is stronger than our sin. He can restore us after our failures, just as He restored Peter. When we repent, our failure is left behind.

Our faith in Jesus transforms our failures into successes for His Church! The challenge is in walking in faith instead of being held captive by the past. “For we walk by faith, not by sight.” (2 Cor. 5:7)


When you plan for your success, what’s the first thing you do? We’ve already talked about some of the steps I take. First I PRAY. Then I PLAN.

The disciples had a plan. Their goal was success. They were tasked with spreading Jesus’ message to all the world, and KNEW they could succeed. They knew because Jesus not only told them, He showed them. He told them to cast a net after they failed during a fruitless night of fishing, and they obeyed (Luke 5:1-11). Because of their obedience, they were blessed with opportunities beyond their wildest imaginings.

If you want to succeed, you need to plan. Part of that plan is figuring out what you already have and leveraging it.

Do you have a strong social media platform you can use to spread the word about your project? Use it. If you are starting a business, focus your efforts on where you are strong and hire someone to fill in where you are weak. If you are starting an outreach for your church, look at the community and see what needs you can fill with resources you already have access too.


PROSPERITY can break your NET without partners to pull in the catch!

The disciples were also very intentional about sharing with their ministry partners and seeking their input and guidance. They shared their successes and their problems. They knew they could count on their ministry partners—their brothers and sisters in Christ.

When Jesus told Simon (Peter) to cast his nets over the side, they caught so many fish their nets were breaking! They knew they couldn’t haul in the catch alone, so they “signaled to their partners in the other boat to come and help them. And they came and filled both the boats, so that they began to sink.” (Luke 5:7)

This passage in Luke may be one of the most valuable parts of this story. Here was a man who was experiencing unexpected, unprecedented success. Had he refused to share that prosperity, he would have lost it all when his nets broke. But Peter never hesitated.

He signaled for assistance and freely shared that prosperity with his partners. And it was more than they all needed! Because they worked selflessly to support one another, Jesus gave them the opportunity to follow Him and become fishers of men.

They found prosperity because of Jesus, but they wouldn’t have been able to keep it if they hadn’t worked together.

They knew that a NET BREAKING BLESSING requires partners!


To the incredible women in my world:

YOU are Amazing!

I have been thinking a lot about the role of women lately. I look around me at the amazing women in my life, and I am in awe. They are businesswomen, mothers, wives, sisters, preachers, counselors, nurses, doctors, philanthropists, prayer warriors, bankers, administrative professionals, artists, and so much more.

And every woman I know functions in multiple roles in her life – all at the same time!

That takes an incredible amount of energy and passion, and it can wear us down. Especially when we sometimes have to work against established ideas about our gender roles.

It’s Time to Celebrate!

This year already, more than 5 million women have gathered worldwide to march, speak, and make their voices heard about the importance of equal rights and recognition for women. March 8 was International Women’s Day, set aside to honor the value and leadership women bring to every aspect of our world—the marketplace, our homes, our churches, our government, our whole communities. Plus, I always look forward to honoring that especially treasured, permanent role of motherhood by honoring our moms every year on Mother’s Day.

Yes, the world appears eager now to celebrate our womanhood, and I agree!

It’s Not Always Easy

However, what astonishes me is the battle women still have to fight every day to prove they have a capacity and the calling to be in leadership, that they are worthy of equal pay for equal responsibilities, and that sexual objectification is harmful to everyone. I talk to so many women who’s hearts have been broken by these issues.

God is not biased for men over women. Throughout history, women have been denied their equal rights and freedoms. This viewpoint of different status between men and women in God’s economy has often rested on misinterpretations of the Bible.

Although early Christians initially embraced the cause of gender equality and reunification through Christ, this cause was abandoned as the growing Christian church confronted the political and sociological challenges associated with its expanding influence. Even today churches usually fail to return to the God-ordained principle of gender neutrality through spiritual unity in Christ. What we need to remember is, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Gal. 3:28, ESV).

Every Woman Is Called

I firmly believe every woman (yes that means you) is called to minister.

Even if you do not consider yourself a leader, you directly impact those around you. Your words influence your neighbors, your family, your friends, and co-workers, and even those you casually interact with on a daily basis. Guess what, my friend, that makes you a leader!

Jesus Loves Women!

Jesus consistently celebrated women as leaders. In his Gospel, Luke tells of twenty-four times when Jesus met a woman, talked about a woman, or mentioned a woman in a parable. Each and every one of these occasions was positive and affirming for the women.

Jesus never turned a woman away. In fact, He had women included in His group of followers. Even though at that time in history it was unthinkable, and another rabbi would not have included women in his group of disciples, Jesus set the Godly pattern for the Church. He was accepting, affirming, and empowering of the gifts, leadership and service offered to Him by every woman who received his message.

Jesus was always compassionate and caring to the women, even when society shunned them or wanted them dead. He was not afraid to let them know He valued their intelligence and abilities. He even healed a woman on the Sabbath. She had been crippled for 18 years and he laid His hands on her in the Temple, saying, “Woman, you are set free of your infirmity” (Luke 13:12). Jesus, our model for leadership, showed everyone around Him that women are worthy of God’s love and care.

It’s Time to Step Forward!

I received my call to ministry at the age of 12. This was in the 1960s when most women had a primary goal of becoming a wife and mother. While both of those have been vital, shaping elements in my life, they have never stopped me from following my call. When I wasn’t ministering to those in a church, I was ministering to my boys, who have all become involved in their own ministries. I have been proud to support and stand alongside my husband as he has ministered, and as we have built ministries together. None of those things makes me less of a leader, less of a minister.

You are a leader too! You have a ministry in your life, even if you haven’t found it yet. God has given you a specific call, and now is the time to grab hold and move forward! “He has saved us and called us to a holy life—not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time” (2 Tim. 1:9).

Empowering women is God’s call on my life. I want every young woman to know her value. Not her value in society … her value in God’s eyes. Her value in leadership. Her value as she ministers to those around her. Because together we can change the world, one thought, one decision, one life at a time.

So are you going to step out today? Grab hold of your call with both hands and get ready to hold on.